{"product_id":"unconditional-parenting-moving-from-rewards-and-punishments-to-love-and-reason-9780743487481","title":"Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason","description":"\u003cb\u003eA groundbreaking approach to parenting by nationally-respected educator Alfie Kohn that gives parents \"powerful alternatives to help children become their most caring, responsible selves\" (Adele Faber, \u003ci\u003eNew York Times\u003c\/i\u003e bestselling author) by switching the dynamic from doing things \u003ci\u003eto\u003c\/i\u003e children to working \u003ci\u003ewith\u003c\/i\u003e them in order to understand their needs and how to meet them.\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eMost parenting guides begin with the question \"How can we get kids to do what they're told?\" and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking, \"What do kids need--and how can we meet those needs?\" What follows from that question are ideas for working \u003ci\u003ewith\u003c\/i\u003e children rather than doing things \u003ci\u003eto\u003c\/i\u003e them. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eOne basic need all children have, Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they screw up or fall short. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments (including \"time-outs\"), rewards (including positive reinforcement), and other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us. Kohn cites a body of powerful, and largely unknown, research detailing the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval. That's precisely the message children derive from common discipline techniques, even though it's not the message most parents intend to send. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eMore than just another book about discipline, though, \u003ci\u003eUnconditional Parenting\u003c\/i\u003e addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of practical strategies for shifting from \"doing to\" to \"working with\" parenting--including how to replace praise with the unconditional support that children need to grow into healthy, caring, responsible people. This is an eye-opening, paradigm-shattering book that will reconnect readers to their own best instincts and inspire them to become better parents.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAuthor:\u003c\/b\u003e Alfie Kohn\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublisher:\u003c\/b\u003e Atria Books\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublished:\u003c\/b\u003e 03\/28\/2006\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePages:\u003c\/b\u003e 272\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eBinding Type:\u003c\/b\u003e Paperback\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eWeight:\u003c\/b\u003e 0.53lbs\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eSize:\u003c\/b\u003e 8.42h x 5.56w x 0.65d\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN:\u003c\/b\u003e 9780743487481\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAbout the Author\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eKohn, Alfie:\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e - \u003cb\u003eAlfie Kohn\u003c\/b\u003e is the author of nine previous books, including \u003ci\u003ePunished by Rewards\u003c\/i\u003e and \u003ci\u003eThe Schools Our Children Deserve, \u003c\/i\u003e that have helped to shape the thinking of parents and educators across the country and abroad. He lectures widely and lives (actually) with his family in the Boston area and (virtually) at www.alfiekohn.org.","brand":"Ingram","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":44521270018262,"sku":"9780743487481","price":17.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0672\/1660\/5398\/products\/img_2088c0c4-0124-4bce-8a5d-024168de024c.jpg?v=1696868045","url":"https:\/\/tiabookcellar.com\/products\/unconditional-parenting-moving-from-rewards-and-punishments-to-love-and-reason-9780743487481","provider":"tia book cellar","version":"1.0","type":"link"}